nice...

I got this as an e-mail fwd and it was so nice, felt like sharing it...

I'm really not sure about the origin or details about the picture and saying...

Tags - part 2!

Yes, I am feeling better... :-)
All your comments and support has helped a lot. Thank you so much for being so supportive... :-)

And, since we feeling better, we have gone on with the tags! Rayshma, here's one more!!!

The 20 questions Tag:

1. Name Three Most Valuable Assets?
- My specs - Can't see without 'em!!
- My ability to laugh - at most things - at others, myself and sometimes at life too! (Sorry Raysh! Picked this from u - can't help it! we seem to have a lot in common)
- optimism and positiveness.

2. If you have the chance, what would you probably say to your beloved one?
- Love you so much more than I actually thought I could...

3. If you were to be stranded on a deserted island, who are the 3 blog buddies you would take with you?
*only 3?*

- My sister
- Grail
- Rayshma
- Galadreil
- Swati

(ok, so I cheated! So?)


4. Where is the place that you want to go the most?
Venice

5. If you can have 1 dream to come true, what would it be?
Pay off the house loan?! ;-)

6. Till now, what is the moment that you regret the most?
no regrets! Learnt from every single mistake of mine - big or small - they happen everyday!

7. What are you afraid to lose the most?
My specs?!! , my family and my love for cooking

8. What would you do if you found a briefcase full of money?
Briefcase full of money! Sigh - that's the dream come true part! isn't it?!!

9. If you meet someone that you love, would you confess to him/her?
Can't love anyone else - it's being used up all on the hubby!

10. List out 3 good points of the person who tagged you...
Haven't met Rayshma, but -
- Her sense of Humour
- Her intelligence
- The way she writes...

11. What are the requirements that you wish from your other half?
Big list, some of the fulfilled ones are:
- Sense of humour
- Sensitive
- Understanding, Caring, Very Supportive
- intelligence
- romantic

12. Which type of person do you hate the most?
in one word - hypocrites

13. What is your ambition?
To be happy and to see that my family, friends around me are happy as well...

14. What is the thing that will make you think someone is a bad person?
insensitivity to your surroundings


15. What is the one thing you would change about yourself?
To be a bit more patient.

16. Are you a shopaholic or no?
YES!

17. What is your stress buster?
Cup of coffee, relaxing while reading a book, sleeping it off...

18. What should be done to people who make such long tags..
Nothing! Keep them coming!!! :-D

19. Do you think God actually exists?
Yes.

*replaced question*
20. What is your one great weakness?
My family...


Rules: Remove 1 question from the tag and add your personal question. Make it a total of 20 questions, then tag people in your list, list them out at the end of this post. Notify them that he/she has been tagged.

I tag: Grail, Timepass, Swati, Cantaloupe's Amma, Jayashri, Vicky

and anyone else who hasn't taken it up yet!!! :-)

Rant....

ok, I am sick and tired of this project, job and my so-called seniors, superiors or whatever you
want to call them... I have been sitting late - EVERY DAY and working and re-working and analysing and testing the damn product for the past 2 months... These past couple of days, have been eventful with fights, accusations and finger pointing.. and remarkably, I have kept my cool - i.e. till today. Today, I lost it... he asks me to sit till 10 or whatever time it takes for the work to complete!! I mean, yesterday I reached around 9:30 and had to deal with drunk auto drivers and I was so scared!!! I told no - I will not sit so late, so now I'm branded as un-cooperative and that I'm not a team player!!
Assholes, I tell you - all of them..They are simply playing games and it's not funny at all to be made the scapegoat...
If you have anything supportive to say, the comments place is yours, if you are trying to be troll-like and supportive of the damn idiots I work with - BUZZ OFF!!!

(ok, I feel better now after all that ranting, but the situation is bad...very bad)

Tags - Part One!!!!

Here come the tags!!

First one -
Material Possessions I absolutely cherish. As anyone would guess, I have a LOT of them! So, picking out the best ones!!!

---> My Bharathanatyam Gejjes (Anklets) and thaala (not sure what it is in English!). I saved
money for almost a year back in degree to buy these 2.
---> My desk at home. It's got 3 desk drawers filled with stuff right from scholl days till date. All
the greeting cards, gifts, trinkets I have ever received are safely stored in them.
---> My stuffed toys here at home. Both Hubby and me love them and he has bought me all
these lovely toys!
---> My dinner set that I received as a wedding gift from my Dad's colleagues. It's beautiful -
in white with red flowers at the border.
---> The Archies perfume my husband got me after we officially started dating! I still have the
bottle even though the perfume is all used up!
---> When I was in 6th or 7th Std (not sure which), I had fell sick with fever and my sis - she
was in Kindergarten or 1st Std had given me a paper card, with a heart in pink saying "I
love u; get well soon"
---> A dress my dad got me when I was in college - the dry cleaners misplaced the top, but I am
hanging on to the rest, hoping I get a match to it!
---> My mom has given me this bowl - to mix rice in - it's steel and its pretty old.
Every time I mix rice and masala in it - it ends up tasting like my mom's cooking!
---> I wear my husband's t-shirt - it's old, its a mix of orange and green and I will not throw it
away!
The actual story is - when I saw him wearing it for the first time in college - it was the first
time I realized that this guy - my best friend actually has a very sexy chest!
(ok, he will kill me for telling this on this blog first and not to him!!!)

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The second one!
The list of simple things in my daily life which makes me happy!

- The good morning hug from my husband as soon as we wake up
- Drinking the hot cup of chocolate milk early in the morning while getting ready for work
- the daily phone call from my mom
- when my husband/sis tell me that whatever I have cooked is delicious
- As I go to work - on the way there is this lake - to see the sun raising and to see its glittering
rays dance along the water surface
- Going shopping with my sister. It's always huge fun and she manages to help me pick stuff in
which I look great, but normally wouldn't buy!
- Going home to Mysore and seeing that my mom has made my fave breakfast.
- Eating chocolate ice cream and walking hand in hand with my husband
- Eating at Sikander in Garuda Mall - love the food there
- An impromptu "i love u" sms from the hubby in the middle of a hectic day.
- Being tagged and seeing the same set of people coming back to read my blog again and again :-)

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Blogging Buddies (This one is from Grail)

1. Grail: She is inspirational and one of the nicest human beings I have come across in life.

2. Rayshma: My "Tag" buddy! She always remembers to tag me and she makes me laugh always! and i'm sure that if
we did meet - we would giggle and laugh all thru!!

3. Swati: I like the simplicity with she writes, she never fails to comment and it seems like she is an old friend

4. Vicky: He was one of the reasons I started blogging! It took him more than a year to convince me that I should be blogging because its the natural thing to do! I haven't met him in 2 yrs and I really hope that we both get the time to meet when he comes down to Bangalore/Mysore next time

5. My sis: She is my support system. She is a nut, weird and extremely lovable!


I tag anyone and everyone who wants to take this up. But, I do want to tag Grail on the materialistic possessions tag!

I'm still here!

Yes, I'm still around!! Blogs are blocked again at work... Had a lot of issues to deal with at work - and it's gotten hectic and the damn guy I work with has this really stupid ambition of trying to keep in office as late as possible... frustrated idiot!
I am so behind with my posts - I have 2 tags to pick up from Rayshma and one from Grail...

Will do them for sure... for I love them tags and tagging people!!!

Also, domestic issues in the name of an errant maid has made me look for a new one again! *sigh*

Had so many thoughts in my head, you know - the kind you want to post, but when I actually sit around to type them - they seem to have leaked out of my head...

Had plenty of arguments in my head - abt quitting this job - but, the sane side one the argument so I'm sticking along and actually have started enjoying the ride...
Also, our second yr anniversary is nearing... (it's Mar 1st people!)
Not quite sure as to how to celebrate - because we are tied up on the financial front and cant afford to go roaming abt places!!
But, I still want it to be romantic but not expensive... *such a lot of constraints really*

Not yet sure what to gift my husband either (ideas are welcome here!)

Will get around to posting the tags and the photos soon - i just need a couple of hours free - undisturbed time in front of the system!

Also, a friend who stopped talking to me 2 yrs ago - around the time I got married is again in contact. Not sure what to make of it though....

Signing off now - will be back with the tags soon...

Edited to add: I'm not whining here... I am actually fine with all the chaos around me - which includes a bucketful of dirty laundry!! :-)

Vacation and back!!!

hello!

We had been on a vacation to Goa over the weekend and it was such great fun!!!
I have decided that after we retire and we have loads of money - we are going to settle there and buy a motor boat!!! I saw some real beauties out there!!!!

(an absolutely delightful dream na?!)

The highlight of the trip was the Dolphin point - where you are taken in a boat and they let you sight Dolphins playing out in the sea!!! I loved it!!! I also realised that I don't get sea sick - i get hungry when I am on a boat!!! The sea according to the owner of the boat (what do u call them? Skipper? captain??) was very choppy and we were very good sailors according to him!!! :-)

(You know I can't resist a good brag!!!)


The trip was great fun!!! We played on the beach, held hands and watched the sunset (Sigh... those were some beautiful moments...)

I'm back now - very refreshed and ready to tackle all the icky issues at work with a brave heart!!!

Photos, I will upload by the weekend... :-)

(You know what this means don't you?! Yup, we got Internet at home now!!!! YAY!!)

Relationships...

Yet another post reflecting my thoughts about relationships - its ups and downs...
(I am forever fascinated by this topic....)

My friend/team mate C broke up with her boyfriend of 1 yr last week... She came to office looking crazy and weird and she was constantly in tears... we were quite frankly appalled by her condition - but, there's very little we could do since we aren't personally very close to her and we don't know the guy... here's the story -

C and N had been seeing each other for the past 1 yr, but he was not ready to commit and settle down with her - she knew this and still had some hope that maybe he would change his mind....
I really don't understand why we women (generalisation at its best!) go in for such relationships... She is 24 and he is 28... My first question is - how come a guy who is 28 isn't willing to settle down? All my friends want to - they just haven't found their right companion yet!
Why do we go in for such a relationship where we know that we are the ones who will come away hurt and our self-respect destroyed... Why is that hope harboured that we can change a man and make him commit himself?
As far as I have seen, if a guy says he doesn't want to commit - it means he will never settle down with YOU - he could be doing the settling down with another girl behind your back - but, not YOU...

Such relationships are bad for our ego and self-esteem... Right? But, we still find our friends/cousins in such relationships...

My reasoning is - when C came to know that he didn't want to get into a commitment with her - she wasn't too deep (emotionally) into the relationship - shouldn't she have broken off then and there? Why wait so long?
The sad part is - she takes the blame and says that it's not his fault and that he never wanted to marry her and the worst part is she thinks she isn't "good enough" for him...
We tried telling her that he wasn't good enough for her, but that's not working as of now...

Why do men do that? I mean, lead a girl on and then tell her he isn't "ready" for commitment?
And why do we women nod along and nurse hopes in our hearts hoping that he will change?

Can't we move on? I mean, if both don't want a commitment then it's fine, but either one isn't on the same page as the other person in a relationship isn't it hard? Why do we need to try so hard to change the other person, when we clearly know that he/she won't change?

There are some questions which have been on my mind now for a long time... Any answers?

It's sad to see her so sad and lost - and most of us still think that he used her and just had fun with her while she was totally committed to a guy who wasn't serious or good enough for her...

A - Z of me!

Picked this up from Rayshma *as always!*
And since I love doing them tags - here goes:

A - Available? - No!!! Job - yes...
B - Best Friend - There are a couple, but my husband, N and V
C - Cake or pie - cake.
D - Drink of choice - pure, cold drinking water.
E - Essential thing used everyday - Laptop/Internet, Deodorant
F - Favorite Color - black/white/green.
G - Gummi bears or worms - Gummi bears? Worms - no way! Yuck!!
H - Hometown - Mysore
I - Indulgence - Brownie with 2 huge scoops of vanilla ice cream and hot chocolate!
J - January or February - January! Start of the New Year and both mom and dad's b'days!
K - Kids and names - not applicable yet.
L - Life is incomplete without - family, friends and my specs!
M - Marriage Date - March 1, 2006
N - Number of siblings - Younger sister
O - Oranges or apples - Both actually...
P - Phobias or fears - That i lose my specs and I can't find the other pair because I can't see...
Q - Quote - The Best and most beautiful things in this world can't be seen or touched;
They must be felt with the Heart. - Helen Keller
R - Reason to smile - Could be anything - from a mug of hot coffee to a bad joke to rains...
S - Season - Spring, Winter
T - Tag three people - Anyone who wants to take it up!
U - Unknown fact about me - - I love my coffee hot and it irritates if it goes just a tad bit cold...
V - Vegetable you don't like - Brinjal
W - Worst habit - Bite my nails
X - X-rays you have had - My back
Y - Your favorite food - Curd Rice with mango Pickle
Z - Zodiac - Pisces

New Year Celebrations...

New Year celebrations were different this year -
I fell down and hurt my ankle on the evening of 1st.
I had gone to the beauty parlour for a haircut, you know - so that the New Year starts out fresh and nice... :-)
So, I got my new haircut and was standing on the curb waiting to cross the road, when this guy all of a sudden pushed me! I was so surprised and angry that I whacked him with my handbag twice!
(I'm still thinking how I managed that after twisting my ankle - I had to turn around and then swing my bag and whack him!)
So, now I have a very badly twisted ankle which still hurts a lot and has me limping around....
Not good at all... But, on a brighter note - the new haircut looks great! ;-)

Happy New Year!

Wishing you and your family a very Happy and Prosperous New Year! :-)

I wish that -

God, gives you grace to accept with serenity the things that can’t be changed,

Courage to change the things You can,

And the Wisdom to know the difference.

P.s: will update more on the work front and what happened after my rant on my blog...
Thank you for the encouraging words which I needed... :-)

Year End Blues...

Hello!

This post is a non-thinking-simply-written posts...
I am bored and kind of depressed - I will put it down to year-end blues...
I liked 2007 - mainly because the numbers added up to 9! (I like the number 9 - that's why! duh!)

Now, 2008 is coming - and it looks very unsure - I knew what I wanted out of 2007 - not that what-all I wanted happened!! But, still...

I have a lot of work as well - trying to undo the crap done by another team mate and she is on a long leave... (i have a load of bad words in my head for this girl)
I wish I had the "License to Kill" like James Bond (he is very sexy...)
I also have a pounding headache, a very sore throat, bad cold and I am seeing double because of the pounding headache. Oh.. did I talking about the cough? No? Its bad - hacking cough is not good....
I also visited the passport office today, sat in the hot sun for 3 hrs to submit some forms which took exactly 5 minutes...
It's winter, there should be no hot-blazing sun. It wasn't so hot yesterday - but, today it was... Bah!

I tried squinting my eyes really hard and tried looking at the monitor - it pinches your cheeks and nothing else happens, except that you look really weird...

I really want to go home, curl up under my cosy blankets and sleep....

I also tried saying the alphabet backwards - nothing happened really, couldn't go beyong "w"
*this just shows I'm bored, in absolutely no mood to work or meet the deadline - which happens to be today*

I tried telling the truth - about a co-worker and how he harasses the others from onsite - how he abuses others by using bad language - no one believed me - even though couple of others have also complained.
Now, the people at onsite say I am a bad-worker (*sob*)
Very demotivating... should I quit and try another company? But, if I do that, will I be labelled as a quitter?
If I stay, everyday - I need to struggle to achieve something - I feel like a fish out of water...
I tell the truth - I hate sucking up to superiors and I believe in integrity - none of which seems to hold any value now-a-days...
Alright, I'm stopping now....

Merry Christmas!

I wish all my 4+ blog friends a Very Merry Christmas!!! :-D

(psst: Very and Merry go well together, don't they?! :P)

Happy Holidays everyone!!!!!!! :-)

Rants, Thoughts...

With my husband back after 3 months, routine has fallen into place again.

I did tell everyone that he went and when he came back, but I never did get around to posting how the experience was - me staying alone for 3 months.

Honestly - I enjoyed myself! I did what I wanted, when I wanted it and how I wanted...(Not that my husbands restricts anything)

I did miss him - his presence was sorely missed - but, I wasn't lonely or sad or depressed... People ask me - "So, now you are happy is it? that your husband is back?"

I'm like - "huh?!"

I was happy in his absence too... but, I really don't know why people don't understand that.

Why is it that he is expected to "enjoy" himself and I am supposed to be all "sad" and"lonely" and "depressed"?

I did the usual things - I went for walks, shopped, met friends, went home to Mysore,watched TV, listened to music... *you get the drift right?*

One of my cousins asked me - "So, how is your life all alone? Are you bored?"

I felt like whacking him on the head with a pipe!I wasn't alone!!

I mean, my husband went out of town for 3 months - he didn't leave me!!and BORED?! I had no words to express...

Another friend I know thought I would be moping at home, but when I told her I was out shopping for books at Crosswords she was speechless!

WHY? What is wrong with me? Why do I know such weirdos? I seriously need to make different friends and pretend NOT to know these people!!!

I learnt a lot too - to handle things on my own, to make decisions alone quickly without consulting my husband (like - whether red bedspreads go well with our curtains...they don't by the way!)

If need arises, I don't mind him going again for another 3 months - though I prefer he goes for a longer term - like 2 yrs, so I can go with him and do something different with my life - other than coding inane stuff and sweating over deadlines!



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We talk a lot about respect and individuality. We stress the need and scream ourselves hoarse by insisting that women should be respected and equality is our birth right.

But, the more I look around, I see that it's the women who need to respect themselves first. Then, expect respect from others...

Unless you respect yourself first, don't expect someone else to do it for you. I think we need to value ourselves more.... What do you think?

We teach our kids respect, but unless the child sees the father and mother respect each other, how will he/she actually understand it?



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There's also the question of marriage - I saw a couple of posts about it on Sue's blog and though I didn't comment on it there - she sure made me think...

Marriage to me is faith and honesty... Be it love or arranged, we all start out with placing our trust with the other individual and then later on in stages, we build on it.

It also means making adjustments to each other's temperments... I'm the emotional kind and he isn't. I get angry easily and he is the sort who lets his anger simmer - I have learnt to recognise the signs - and I leave him alone until he comes out with what's bothering him... We have also learnt to keep t he communication lines open however difficult it gets and this has worked for us - we don't fight too much these days...

He doesn't tell me everything - certain things he feels I don't need to know - I respect that and I back off - I have learnt over the years to let go and not ask or insist he tell me everything and this I have realised will make sure he tells me most of the things...

This has worked for us... again, I am not pointing out fingers or making suggestions about marriage or trust factors here - We are still figuring out a lot of things...

But respecting each other's view points and trying to figure out why the other person feels so strongly about certain issues is helping us take our relationship to a another level... :-)


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I went shopping with a friend to Bangalore Central - she is getting married and her husband has insisted that she wears jeans and be comfortable in them - a tall order to a girl who has never worn jeans!

I seem to have the patience of a saint - if you don't mind me saying so! I made her feel and look comfortable in jeans in a matter of few hours!

But, she fusses! OMG! How she fussed! I was so close to losing it! But, each time I kept remembering that she has never done this kind of thing before!!

Well, I had fun spening someone else's money for a change!!! :-)

Happy Weekend!!

Hello!
It's not like I've stopped blogging...
Some of my favorite bloggers are closing shop...
I hope they come back soon -
*Poppins Mom - Do you hear me?!*

It's just that I've been so busy with work and today is my deadline.
I really hope that the next couple of weeks won't be this bad...

The past couple of days have been eventful... with work and change in projects from Monday - it's been hectic and that's an understatement!


I really do have a lot of things to write - you know the ideas keep coming and overflowing, but this time, I didn't write them down anywhere - so, its all stuck in my head and I haven't had time to sit and compose a decent post in a long time...

Happy Weekend! Hope all you lovely people out there have loads of fun with your loved ones! :-)

One more Tag!

I "lifted" this tag off from Swati!!! I like doing them and they are so much fun, so here goes!
It's the Number Four Tag...

Four Ladies I admire:
My Mother
Grail
Kiran Bedi
Rakhi Sawant - her unapologetic straight forwardness!! (I am serious here!)

Four Favourite Foods:
Curd Rice and Pickle
Bisi Bele Bath (A very typical Karnataka Rice dish)
Masala Dosa
Kheer (it's a sweet)


Four Favourite Drinks:
Red Wine
Chocolate Milkshake
Chocolate Milk
Coffee

Four Fondest memories:
My 2 yrs stay in Denver, Colorado when I was a kid
The time I spent with my husband in Mysore before marriage
Ramya Hotel (a restaurant in Mysore) with my grandfather
Piano lessons at Good Shepard convent!


Four Unforgettable Days:
My wedding
The day I fought with the school board saying girls aren't given equal rights in sports
My first Bharatanatyam programme (I was terrified!)
The day I met my best friend V in another friend's Lab in the university.

Edited to add:
(I picked this up from Rayshma)
Four TV Shows I Like:
Desperate Housewives
That 70's show/Sa Re Ga Ma Pa - not the children's contest going on now...
Friends
Ugly Betty/Heroes


And now time for confession ...Four things I should work on:
My temper
My career
My moodiness (I'm terribly moody)
My procrastination

Anyone and everyone is welcome to take up this tag! :-)

Tagged!

Hi! Me got tagged by Rayshma. It's the 22 questions men want an answer to!
*like that's gonna answer all the questions about us women!*

So, here goes

1. How do you feel after a one night stand?
It depends on how the "stand" went!!!

2. Do you ever get used to wearing a thong?
Erm... Should I start now? or later?

3. Does it hurt?
What Hurts? Is there something new out there that I don't know about? how is it done??

4. Do you know when you are acting crazy?
Yeah... Always... that's why it's so much more fun!

5. Does size really matter?
Of course! Always - and YES, it matters with the bank balances and diamonds as well!

6. When the bill comes, are you still a feminist?
No!! Never! Why take away the privilege from you?! *especially when footing a huge bill!*

7. Why do you take so long to get ready?
Like CeeKay says - Perfection is an art and can not be hurried.

8. Do you watch porn, too?
No, it's boring - but, if that's what turns you on - then go ahead - I'll watch you instead!!

9. Will something from Tiffany’s solve everything?
Not really, but it's a start - go ahead and try...

10. Are guys as big of a mystery to you as you are to us?
NO...There really isn't much to understand is there?!

11. Why do you sometimes think you look fat?
I'm giving you a chance to fall flat on your face when you say yes - which is again a lure for something from Tiffany's.

12. Why are you always late?
Please check the answer to #7

13. Does it bother you when we scratch?
Yes. It reminds me of my pet dog at home and a strong urge to say "shoo" arises!

14. Do you wish you could pee standing up?
No... Does that make you feel special? Does it?!

15. Why do so many women cut their hair short as soon as they get married?
It's therapeutic!

16. How often do you think about sex?
Why? Are you thinking about it NOW?

17. What do you think of women who sleep with guys on the first date?
Are we talking about just sleeping here??

18. Would you?
Are you that boring?

19. Do you realize every guy wants a girl just like his mom?
Thankfully, No, he doesn't. Evolution would have taken a back step if that had been the case!

20. Why does every woman think she can change him?
Like Rayshma says - we all "hope" for a better tomorrow... a better future.

21. Does it matter what car I drive?
Nope. Does it matter to you that I'm a better driver?

22. Do you ever fart?
Yes, but since you don't seem to know about it - let's not talk about it either.

I am not going to tag anyone with this, everyone I know has already done the tag! :-)

I am back! after a self-imposed hiatus of more than 15 days...Where was I? Slogging away in the office.
The week after Diwali, my sister fell sick - so, I had to juggle office and had to get home to cook her something since outside food is a strict NO at such times as instructed by my mom!
After that, I fell sick for a couple of days and then, had so much work that some of it was coming out of my nose and ears too!

Oh, the festival rocked and I missed my husband lots!

He will be back by the end of this week and I'm looking forward to opening all those precious gifts he would have got his precious wife! Heh!!
*I did twist his arm just a tiny bit for a couple of earrings I saw on a website though!*

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Oh and this weekend - Saturday to be more precise - Me and a friend - we went to Shoppers Stop in Garuda Mall.
There as usual - we didn't buy anything much (I did buy a pair of sandals though - they are so sexy and so comfortable and that m'dears is an awesome combination!)
But, we did comment a lot on most of the stuff and my favorite one is - my friend has a thing for belts - he buys them all the time and so, he saw some belts by Allen Solly and they were really expensive (Rs.900 I think)
He was on the verge of buying one, when I told him - very loudly, in Kannada - "don't buy them here da - try the corner of Brigade Road, you get the same stuff without the brand label for Rs. 100 only!"
Then, turned around to see the salesman glaring away at us!!! We beat it out of there, pretty fast, I tell you!

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I also saw this couple with 2 kids at the bus stand while I was going on home for the Diwali weekend -
The Lady was struggling with a huge bag and a kid who wouldn't hold the mom's hand in the crowded bus stand and the guy (read this!) was holding onto the younger kid's hand and the kid's fur lined purse!!! He was also screaming at his wife to hurry up! The poor thing was not only struggling with a heavy bag, but also with a toddler who wouldn't hold still... felt like whacking him on the head!

I saw the movie = "Devil Wears Prada" on Star Movies over the weekend and I didn't like it much. They show the boy friend walking away and the best friend not being supportive because she got good at her job. It also showed Meryl Streep (it's her right? I'm so bad with Hollywood actors' names) getting a divorce again because she is successful... I don't know.... it's just a movie, but are men really that intimidated by powerful and successful women??

I know this lady at work - she hasn't told her husband about her salary hike because it's more than his and she still makes it a point to remove the extra cash from her account before she goes home at the beginning of each month....

HAPPY DEEPAVALI!

Wish you all a very Happy, Prosperous and a Safe Diwali! :-)

With Lots of Love and Cheer

Pixie

Dumbledore's Sexuality

A lot of hue and cry has been raised about the fact that Rowling "declared" that the Headmaster of Hogwarts - Dumbledore is Gay...
The argument has gone on both in the blogging world and out of it. Since, so much has been written about this and instead of hogging the comment's space of fellow bloggers - I decided to post my 2 cents worth on the same topic...
When I first heard/read that "Dumbledore was gay" article on the Internet, my first reaction was - So? How does it matter?
Whether he is a Homo or a Hetero, what does it matter?It's a fictitious character and what does it matter?
Then, I went ahead and read the various reactions to it. The first was - it was a major victory to the LGBT Community.
How?
How is it a victory if a fictional character is declared gay? How is it helping the LGBT community in fighting for their rights/acceptance?

This so-called declaration has made sure that the parents don't let their children pick up the 5 - 7 series' books at any age below 10-12...
Right?
I mean, if I had kids now - I would make sure that they read age-appropriate books which fuel their mental growth, which in turn will help them at a later stage to understand what "Being Gay" actually means...
Mad Momma has written a balanced post on the whole issue here which is so appropriate.
How many of us would explain the terms homosexual to a child below 10-12 yrs of age?

Why should children grow up any faster? She makes a very valid point by saying that -
"I'd rather they sit under a tree and eat jam and scones a la Enid Blyton."
Again, arguments arose for her article for which she says again -
" GAY IS NOT AN ISSUE BUT BRINGING UP A CHARACTER'S SEXUAL ORIENTATION IN A CHILD'S BOOK IS POINTLESS. " Which is again true!
* MM you had me nodding all along! *
Here, the question is not about Gay couples or whether they can provide the necessary security children should have. It doesn't mean that all heterosexual couples are giving the required security for children - no, it just means that the sexual orientation of a fictional character is pointless.
Why bring it up now? When you say your books are targeted for children - why bring this out now?? What is the point?
Again, I ask the same question - how is it actually helping the LGBT community?
Will the declaration of Dumbledore's sexuality make Gay marriages/relationships legal?
Will parents across the globe stop treating homosexuality as a contagious disease? NO...

Our society is rife with prejudices against LGBT communities...
And I just spoke to a colleague - and he said that - now, after all this - he doesn't want his 8 yr old son to read the 5th book of the series and he won't be buying it!!!

You will find people of this sort of mentality more than the ones who say - it's alright.

I really don't think that this has helped the Gay community...
More awareness, more acceptance is needed and that is happening very slowly and I definitely don't think Rowling's declaration has helped anyone - Homo or Hetero in conquering their fears, prejudices...
Its really a death for children's literature as MM aptly mentions...
We still symbolise innocence with children - I don't think that we want that to be taken away from us...

Please note: This doesn't mean I am against or prejudiced against the LGBT community.It just means that the sexual orientation of a fictitious character isn't helping anyone...

Happy Weekend!

I received this as a FWD and it's so nice, I just had to share it!
I am really not sure of the origin of this or who actually wrote it, but it's nice nevertheless!

When u really want something,

sometimes u have to swim a little ....Deeper....

You can't give up just because things don't come easy....

You have to overcome the obstacles and face your fears....

But in the end, it's all worth while!!!!

Life is full of ups and downs,

But if u believe in yourself...

U will always come through with flying colors.....

Value Friendship, Love and Faith...

Never underestimate yourself.

Happy Weekend Everyone! :-)

Points to Ponder

1. Never drink Butter milk after an afternoon lunch - especially if you have to get back to work and you have a deadline!
It makes you so damn sleepy that I have stared seeing everything double, my cheeks and jaws hurt from all the yawning...

2. I have this team mate - and his wife is pregnant - he was at the client's place - on site till last month and now because of her pregnancy - he is back here and his wife is at her mom's place.
Now, there's nothing wrong with that right? Right. BUT, he doesn't visit her every weekend! He says - "what can I do? She will stay there till the baby is 6-9 months, because until then I can't do much with the baby."
So, I ask him - "Aren't you going to help her? Doesn't she need you?"
(I'm dumb like that - I just can't shut up!)
He looks at me blankly and says - "What can I do? Taking care of the baby is the wife's job!"
It was my turn to look at him blankly after that!
Is this attitude right?
I don't know much about babies, pregnancies etc - but, I do know one thing - I want my husband with me ALL the time - except when he has to work! I mean, won't he miss out important milestones like rolling over, burping, baby poop, talking, crawling, walking etc etc...
I find his attitude very wrong... Am I wrong in judging his attitude towards his wife, child?
(I know judging is bad, but people help me out here!)

3. Why does the cell phone ring - the call always from home when you either have to pee badly or you are in a meeting?

4. Why is it that you are taken for granted for taking leave for family functions because you are the "woman", but it's understandable that the husband can't take leave because he has to "work" and meet "deadlines"
(This happens even if you are in the same profession!)

5. Why does your manager walk up to you to discuss a very serious issue when you are smiling away and trying hard not to giggle while reading a really funny post on a blog or
e-mail??

Do you have any more? I seem to have so many, but right now, I am really too sleepy to think and then type them out! (Whew!! I really work too hard!!!!! :-D)

Go on and add them, the comments section is your space! :-)