Thursday, October 16, 2008

Right or Wrong?

right or wrong?

- To marry the man you had an affair with when you were still married to your Ex-husband?

- To tell your friend you love her/him even though he/she is married.

- The desire to see a person suffer just as much as you did, because that person was the cause of your sufferings?

- To be strong enough to tell a person they are not invited home because you know that if they do step into your home, they will ruin it.

- To say, you don't want to visit a dying relative because you prefer their healthy image in your mind to the sick one you might see...

- To break up a couple just so that you could be with her, because you love her so much?

- To break a person's heart after you promised them marriage just because he/she is from a different community and your parents said no?

What do you think?


Edited to add: Thank you for all your views... :-)
I received a couple of emails from friends asking me if anything was wrong..
No, nothing's wrong :-)
I was talking to friends and these topics came up, so posted them to know what you guys think about it.. and the responses though quite similar have varied and has been interesting as well!

Keep posting your views though! :-)


12 comments:

Galadriel said...

- wrong. if you were planning to leave that ex husband anyway, why not wait until yu are officially separated?
- wrong. no good is going to come out of such a confession.
- wrong. your suffering was not solely another person's fault. you suffered because you let yourself suffer.
- right. if you can avoid problems while you are cognizant and aware of the consequences, you should do everything in your power to avoid them.
- wrong. how would you like it if your relatives didn't visit you when you were in sickness?
- wrong. if you loved her so much, you wouldn't want to see her be unhappy and go through a breakup.
- this is the only question i don't have an answer to. if you had asked me 2 years ago, i would have said it is wrong, but now i am with someone who sacrificed his love, his world for his parents and i cannot say that he was wrong, because he wasn't.

Pixie said...

Wow Galadriel! :-)

Thank you for your views... :)

It's good to see you back here again :-)

~nm said...

Its all in the perception and also depends on the situations. What may be right for maybe wrong for another!

For e.g. if we take point 1. If the husband was an a$$hole, and it was the wife who had an affair I wouldn't call it wrong. Similarly other other points can be right or wrong is situational and perceptional.

I know lot of people may not agree with me and might roll eyes at me :D

Swati said...

- If you have been seperated officially you can marry anyone in the world.

- Wrong - No point , it will bring no good to either of you and ruin two families.

- Natural. But then thats not right. Let God decide.

- I think thats fair unless the person is not one of yours parent.

- Wrong I think ,cause at that point of time you need to think of the dying man/woman and what makes them happy

- wrong , you love her , don't you want her to be happy ?

- wrong , if you already commited , you shd not back out.

claytonia vices said...

The first one has legal repercussions!! LOL! Let the law take it's own way!

Not visiting dying relative is mean, I think. You can still retain your fond memories and also make the person happy...

I think the second one is very dependent on the situation. It might be a faux pa to confess when the other person is having a great relationship and maybe does not need to really know.

The last one: I would always say it is not the right thing to do. When one promises marriage, better do ones homework!!

wisegirl said...

bekitha??? who decides what's right and wrong..

Pixie said...

@wisegirl: Yea babe... its all circumstantial... But, everyone's views have been different and that has been interesting.

rayshma said...

- right. if u're in a bad relationship and u've found solace elsewhere, nothing wrong with marrying the man. wrong, if you've cheated on a perfectly good r'ship.
- absolutely wrong. mindfucks the married person.
- wrong. what goes around, comes around.
- right. coz at the end of the day, it's ur house. and u have the right to protect it.
- wrong. but i would still do it. no justifications.
- wrong. her happiness should mean more to you.
- wrong. if you think u will go with what ur parents say, please ask them before u get into ANY relationship.

Renu said...

loved the questions:)
To marry the man you had an affair ------wrong, having an affair while married is so wrong.

- To tell your friend you love her/him even though he/she is married.......completel wrong and u dont really love otherwidse wudnt bring unhappiness in urlover's world.

- The desire to see a person suffer ...........may not be wrong but useless.

- To be strong enough to tell a person -----not wrong at ll, u r right:)

- To say, you don't want to visit a dying relative ........nothing right or wrong here, its OK:)

- To break up a couple just so that you could be with her, because you love her so much?-----wrong and one cant be happy by bringing unhappiness to others.



- To break a person's heart after you promised them marriage just because he/she is from a different community and your parents said no?

wrong, if u r not sure about ur parents the think before promissing, breaking a promise is always ano..no for me:)

Renu said...

loved the questions:)
To marry the man you had an affair ------wrong, having an affair while married is so wrong.

- To tell your friend you love her/him even though he/she is married.......completel wrong and u dont really love otherwidse wudnt bring unhappiness in urlover's world.

- The desire to see a person suffer ...........may not be wrong but useless.

- To be strong enough to tell a person -----not wrong at ll, u r right:)

- To say, you don't want to visit a dying relative ........nothing right or wrong here, its OK:)

- To break up a couple just so that you could be with her, because you love her so much?-----wrong and one cant be happy by bringing unhappiness to others.



- To break a person's heart after you promised them marriage just because he/she is from a different community and your parents said no?

wrong, if u r not sure about ur parents the think before promissing, breaking a promise is always ano..no for me:)

illusionaire said...

I must say its difficult to say anything when it comes to the matter of the heart. There is no clear distinct right or wrong, as each side can always throw up a long voluminous parry of justifications.

~nm has a strong point and I agree with him.

lolz at claytonia's "The first one has legal repercussions!"
XD

illusionaire said...

Ps. I am not surprised you received mails from friends asking you if something was wrong... I jumped to the same conclusion too and was about to mail you, but than I saw the edited part of your post.