Today's lunch turned out be very eventful - more so than usual.
We were(hubby and I) having our lunch peacefully when another couple sat down at our table...They were speaking quite loudly, so we were able to hear the conversation clearly...It went something like this -
She: So, she (some other girl) finally got married!
He: Hmmm... Really?? Good that she married before she became old!
By now, I'm very curious, so I'm eating a bit slowly to see what turn this conversation takes!
(Yes, I am the "slightly curious" sort and in my defense, they were loud!)
She: Yea, she married a Christian! hers is a "love" marriage (In a derogatory tone) She is a proper Gowda!! (What does that mean??) And now she has gone and converted!!!
He: Tsk! Tsk! Very sad... She has just ruined her life! If she has a daughter, who will marry her???
I'm so wonder-struck and I just couldn't help it - looked up and looked at them!
My thoughts were along this line -
How or why should it matter to these 2 what some other girl went and did...
So, what if she married a Christian?
Last time I looked it up - Christians also belong to the same species - Homosapiens!!!
And what does a "Proper Gowda" mean??
Hello - Life is all about love, hope, sharing and more love...As long as these 2 people loved each other, how did it matter to what religion, caste, creed,colour group they belonged to?
And who are these 2 to judge about what happens to their children??
I can understand if a lady/man who doesn't have the right exposure, education speak like this, but these 2 were educated and they are working and this is their mindset...
I looked at my husband, and he knows the signs and said "Don't look at me!!"
I was like - "C'mon, for the sake of an argument..." and he goes "Blog it!!"
So, that's what I have done...
Tell me, does it matter to what religion you belong to when you love and respect your life partner?
I spoke to my mom about this and she had a different view about things and this is what she said:
Different religions have different customs and we as Indians, whether we accept it or not, we are very particular about all this...
She said that as the years go by and the lust, love has all but disappeared, we tend to fall back on the familiar and some may go into depression or resent later on in life that they were made to abandon their particular religion/caste...
However much we progress and call ourselves broad-minded, that regret will arise.
So, if you want to marry someone from a different religion/caste, don't convert yourself,but do learn to respect, follow the other religion/caste as well...
I thought that was wise....
But, its again very circumstantial isn't it?? Some in-laws expect their DIL of a different religion/caste to convert, so she has to for the sake of her marriage/love etc etc... Or the scare that the guy will abandon her.... Sometimes, women are quite low on self-esteem and tend to think that their life starts and ends with their husband.....
What do you think?
4 days ago